How To Be More Confident – Practical Steps That Actually Work
- Ross Thompson
- 1 day ago
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Learn how to be more confident with practical strategies and discover how one focused coaching session can transform your self-belief. Upgrade your confidence today.
How To Be More Confident (Without Pretending To Be Someone You’re Not)
Confidence is one of those things people assume you either have or you don’t. You’re either “naturally confident” or you’re just “not that type of person”.
That belief alone stops more people than fear ever could.
If you’ve ever thought “I just need to be more confident” but had no idea where to actually start, you’re not alone.
Many adults want to improve their confidence, but they’re stuck between two extremes:
Overly fluffy advice that sounds nice but changes absolutely nothing.
Or intense, long-term programmes that feel overwhelming before you’ve even begun.
This post is different.
Together, we're going to break down how to be more confident in a way that’s realistic, grounded and genuinely empowering, especially if you’re someone who doesn’t realise that one focused session could be all you need to get started and build confidence independently from there.
Why Confidence Feels So Difficult As An Adult
Often, people think that confidence is all about what type of personality you have. In reality, confidence is a skill, not a trait.
As adults, confidence often gets eroded quietly over time:
Repeated self-doubt after setbacks.
Years of putting others first and neglecting yourself.
Comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlights.
Being capable but constantly second-guessing yourself.
Feeling like you “should” be further along by now.
Most people I work with don’t lack ability. They lack self-trust.
Without self-trust, confidence feels forced.
What Confidence Actually Is (And What It Isn’t)
Before we talk about how to be more confident, let’s clear something up.
Confidence is not:
Being loud.
Having no fear.
Never doubting yourself.
Always knowing the answer.
Real confidence is:
Trusting yourself to handle situations.
Taking action despite uncertainty.
Feeling grounded rather than performative.
Backing yourself even when things feel uncomfortable.
That’s why confidence coaching and empowerment coaching work best when they focus on internal alignment, not surface-level behaviours.
The Real Reason “Just Be More Confident” Doesn’t Work
Most advice fails or is useful because it skips the foundations.
You’re told to:
Speak up more.
Push yourself.
Think positively.
Act confident until you feel it.
But if your inner dialogue is working against you, those strategies collapse under pressure.
Confidence doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from understanding yourself better and changing how you respond to challenge.
That’s where structure matters.
How to Be More Confident: The Foundations That Actually Create Change
Let’s get practical.
Here are the core foundations I focus on when helping adults build confidence — especially those who want tools they can use independently.
1. Stop Treating Confidence As A Finish Line
Confidence grows through action, not before it.
Waiting to feel confident before starting keeps you stuck.
Instead:
Start small.
Build evidence.
Let confidence catch up.
Confidence is built through proof, not motivation.
2. Understand Where Your Confidence Leaks Are
Most people don’t lack confidence everywhere, they leak it in specific areas.
Common confidence leaks include:
Overthinking conversations afterwards.
Avoiding opportunities you’re capable of.
Saying yes when you want to say no.
Downplaying your achievements.
Needing reassurance before acting.
Once you identify where confidence drops, change becomes targeted and achievable.
This is a key part of effective confidence coaching.
3. Shift From Self-Criticism To Self-Leadership
There’s a difference between being self-aware and being self-destructive.
Confidence grows when you move from:
“What’s wrong with me?” to
“What do I need right now?”
This shift alone can change how you show up at work, in relationships and in decision making.
Why One Session Can Be Enough To Get Started
Many adults assume confidence building requires months of work.
Sometimes it does. Often, it doesn’t.
What most people actually need is:
Clarity.
Direction.
A reset in how they see themselves.
Tools they can keep using.
That’s exactly what Elevate Your Self-Esteem is designed to provide.
It’s not about fixing you. It’s about unlocking what’s already there in a 90 minute online session.
Elevate Your Self-Esteem: Confidence Coaching That Empowers You
Elevate Your Self-Esteem is a focused online group coaching session created for adults who want to feel more confident, capable and in control, without becoming dependent on ongoing support.
This is empowerment coaching in its truest form.
What Makes This Session Different?
Unlike generic workshops, this session:
Offers practical strategies, not just "in an ideal world' content.
Is structured but not overwhelming.
Is supportive without creating reliance.
You’ll leave with tools you can use immediately and long after the session ends.
What You’ll Learn In Elevate Your Self-Esteem
This session is designed to answer the real question behind how to be more confident:
“How do I stop doubting myself and start backing who I am?”
During the session, we focus on:
Understanding how confidence is actually built.
Identifying and shifting unhelpful self-beliefs.
Learning how to respond to setbacks without losing momentum.
Developing self-trust and internal stability.
Building confidence that doesn’t depend on validation.
Everything is explained clearly and practically.
The Emotional Shift People Experience
Confidence isn’t just behavioural, it’s emotional too.
After the session, people often describe feeling:
Calmer and more grounded.
Clearer about who they are.
More in control of their reactions.
Less critical of themselves.
More willing to take healthy risks.
This emotional reset is often what unlocks action.
How To Be a Better You (Without Reinventing Yourself)
One of the most powerful shifts in confidence building is realising you don’t need to become someone else.
You don’t need a new personality, nor do you need to be fearless. You certainly do not need to “fake it”.
How to be a better you starts with:
Understanding your patterns.
Working with your strengths.
Responding differently to pressure.
That’s what real empowerment coaching supports.
Practical Strategies For Building Self-Confidence
Here are some tools you can start using now and deepen through the session.
Confidence-Building Strategies That Work
Set process-based goals, not outcome-based ones.
Track actions taken, not just results.
Reflect weekly on what you handled well.
Challenge “all or nothing” thinking.
Speak to yourself like someone you respect.
Confidence grows when you see evidence of capability.
Why Group Coaching Can Be So Powerful
Many adults assume one-to-one support is the only effective option.
Group coaching offers something unique:
Normalisation (“It’s not just me”).
Shared insight.
Perspective without comparison.
Safe challenge.
In Elevate Your Self-Esteem, the group environment often strengthens confidence faster than people expect.
Who This Session Is Perfect For
This session is ideal if you:
Want to feel more confident but don’t know where to start.
Are capable but constantly second-guess yourself.
Want tools you can use independently.
Feel stuck between wanting change and fearing it.
Don’t want endless sessions, just real progress.
If that sounds familiar, this session was built for you.
Confidence That Lasts, Not Confidence That Depends
The goal isn’t temporary confidence.
The goal is:
Self-trust.
Emotional resilience.
Internal steadiness.
That’s why this session doesn’t create dependency. It gives you a framework you can keep using as life evolves.
Take the First Step Towards Being More Confident
If you’ve been searching for how to be more confident, this is your sign to stop overthinking and start building.
You don’t need years of work and you don’t need to overhaul your life.
You don’t need to wait until you feel ready.
You just need a starting point.
👉 Book your place on the Elevate Your Self-Esteem online group coaching session today and take a confident, supported step forward with tools you can carry with you long after the session ends.
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