Finding The Right Coach, When You’re Thinking “I Want A Coach”

Thinking “I want a coach”? Discover the right type of coaching, how to choose well and where to start with confidence and clarity.

If you’ve found yourself typing “I want a coach” into Google, pause for a moment.

That thought doesn’t come out of nowhere.

It usually shows up when something inside you knows that where you are now isn’t where you want to stay.

Life might look fine on the surface, but underneath there’s frustration, restlessness or a quiet sense that you’re capable of more.

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You may feel stuck, overwhelmed, lacking confidence or simply unclear on your next step.

Wanting a coach isn’t weakness. It’s awareness.

This blog post is for adults who want positive change, self‑improvement and momentum. We’ll explore what coaching really is, the different types of coaching available, how to find the right coach for you and why choosing the right starting point matters so much.

Along the way, I’ll also show you how Your Starting Point, my online group coaching session, helps adults move from “I want coaching” to real clarity, confidence and direction.

Why So Many Adults Reach The Point Of “I Want a Coach”

Most adults don’t wake up one morning and suddenly decide they want coaching.

The idea tends to build up quietly.

• You keep telling yourself you’ll feel better once things settle down.

• You consume self‑help content but don’t actually change anything.

• You know what isn’t working, but not what to do instead.

• You’re functioning… but not feeling fulfilled.

For many people, this moment comes after a life shift:

• Burnout at work.

• Loss of confidence.

• Relationship changes.

• Parenting pressures.

• Feeling stuck in a role or identity that no longer fits.

When someone searches “I want a coach”, they’re often saying:

“I don’t want to stay like this, but I need help working out what comes next.”

That’s a powerful place to be.

What Coaching Actually Is (And What It Isn’t)

Before choosing a coach, it’s important to clear up a few misconceptions.

Coaching is not:

• Therapy (it doesn’t focus on diagnosing or treating mental health conditions).

• Purely advice‑giving or telling you what to do.

• Endless talking without action.

Coaching is:

• A structured, forward‑focused process.

• Practical, goal‑orientated and empowering.

• Designed to help you think clearly, act confidently and move forward.

When adults say “I want coaching”, what they’re really asking for is:

• Clarity.

• Direction.

• Accountability.

• Tools they can use long‑term.

Good coaching helps you understand what’s actually holding you back, not just what feels uncomfortable on the surface.

Different Types Of Coaching: Finding What Fits You

One of the biggest reasons people struggle to choose a coach is because they don’t know which type of coaching they need.

Let’s break down the most common ones adults look for.

Life Coaching

Life coaching focuses on the bigger picture.

It helps you look at:

• Where you are now.

• Where you want to be.

• What’s getting in the way.

Life coaching is ideal if you feel:

• Stuck or lost.

• Unfulfilled despite “doing everything right”.

• Unsure of your next chapter.

It’s not about fixing you. It’s about helping you design a life that fits who you are now.

Mindset Coaching

Mindset coaching zooms in on how you think, respond and make decisions.

This is powerful if you:

• Overthink everything.

• Struggle with self‑doubt or fear of failure.

• Know what to do but don’t follow through.

Mindset coaching helps you understand your internal patterns and replace them with practical strategies that build confidence, consistency and resilience.

Confidence Coaching

Confidence coaching focuses on how you show up in the world.

It’s particularly useful if you:

• Hold yourself back.

• Avoid opportunities.

• Struggle to speak up or set boundaries.

Confidence isn’t about being loud or fearless. It’s about trusting yourself enough to act.

Many adults who say “I want a coach” actually need a blend of all three.

Why Choosing The Right Coach Matters More Than Choosing Any Coach

Not all coaching is equal.

The right coach doesn’t impress you with clever jargon or motivational quotes. They help you see yourself clearly, without judgement and give you tools you can actually use.

When looking for a coach, ask yourself:

• Do they understand adult life pressures?

• Are they practical, not just inspirational?

• Do they focus on empowerment rather than dependency?

Coaching should leave you feeling:

• Clear, not confused.

• Supported, not reliant.

• Capable, not overwhelmed.

If you’re thinking “I want a coach”, you deserve someone who meets you where you are and helps you move forward with purpose.

The Hidden Barriers Most Adults Don’t Realise Are Holding Them Back

Here’s something I see time and time again in my work.

People come to coaching believing the problem is:

• Lack of motivation.

• Poor time management.

• Low confidence.

But underneath, the real barriers are often:

• Unclear foundations (no sense of stability or direction).

• Living on autopilot.

• Ignoring early warning signs of burnout.

• Carrying outdated beliefs about who they should be.

Until these are identified, no amount of goal‑setting will stick.

That’s why starting in the right place is critical.

Your Starting Point: The Smart First Step When You Want Coaching

If you’re thinking “I want coaching, but I’m not sure where to begin”, Your Starting Point was created specifically for you.

This online group coaching session is designed to help adults:

• Identify their true starting position.

• Understand areas of security, stability and vulnerability.

• Uncover hidden barriers that are quietly draining energy.

• Gain clarity on what needs attention now, not someday.

Rather than jumping straight into goals, we focus on foundations.

Because sustainable change doesn’t start with pressure. It starts with awareness.

What Makes This Group Session Different

• It’s structured but human.

• Insightful without being overwhelming.

• Practical, reflective and empowering.

You’ll leave knowing:

• What’s actually going on beneath the surface.

• Where your energy is leaking.

• What to prioritise next.

For many adults, this session is the moment everything clicks.

Group Coaching Vs One‑To‑One Coaching: Which Is Right For You?

Both have powerful benefits, and choosing the right one depends on where you are.

Benefits oof Group Coaching

• Shared insight: you realise you’re not alone.

• Fresh perspectives from others at similar stages.

• Lower pressure, high value.

• A strong sense of momentum.

Your Starting Point is ideal if you’re exploring coaching and want clarity before committing to deeper work.

Benefits Of One‑To‑One Coaching

• Fully personalised support.

• Deeper exploration of specific challenges.

• Tailored strategies for your life and goals.

Many people attend Your Starting Point and then move into one‑to‑one coaching for adults once they know exactly what they want to work on.

What Changes After You Work With The Right Coach

When coaching is done well, the changes aren’t just external.

Adults often report:

• Feeling calmer and more grounded.

• Increased confidence in decision‑making.

• Clearer boundaries.

• Renewed motivation without burnout.

  
  

But the biggest shift?

They stop asking “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking “What’s actually right for me?”

That mindset change alone can be life‑changing.

Signs You’re Ready For Coaching (Even If You’re Not Sure Yet)

You might be ready for coaching if:

• You’re tired of repeating the same patterns.

• You want change but don’t want chaos.

• You’re done with quick fixes.

• You want tools you can use long‑term.

If you’re reading this and thinking “This sounds like me”, trust that.

That’s usually the moment people move from “I want a coach” to actually taking action.

How To Take the Next Step

If you want clarity, confidence and direction, without feeling overwhelmed, Your Starting Point is designed to meet you exactly where you are.

It’s not about pressure or perfection. It’s about understanding yourself properly so your next steps actually make sense.

👉 Book your place on Your Starting Point today and give yourself the clarity you’ve been searching for.

And if you already know you want personalised support, explore my one‑to‑one coaching for adults and take the next step with confidence.

All you need is a starting point.