Coaching For Positive Change: When You Know Something Needs To Shift, But You’re Not Sure What
- Ross Thompson
- 4 days ago
- 5 min read
Feeling stuck but unsure what needs to change? Coaching for positive change helps adults and professionals gain clarity, confidence and direction.
When “Fine” Isn’t Fine Anymore
On paper, life might look okay.
You’re functioning. Working. Showing up. Getting through the week.
But underneath that, there’s a growing sense that something isn’t right anymore.
You feel stuck. Restless. Unmotivated. Or constantly tired, even when nothing major is “wrong”.
You might say things like:
“I can’t keep going like this, but I don’t know what I’d change.”
“I know I’m capable of more, I just don’t know where to start.”
“I feel burned out, but I don’t know how to reset without everything falling apart.”
This is where coaching for positive change becomes powerful. Not because it gives you all the answers, but because it helps you finally ask the right questions and take action with clarity rather than feeling overwhelmed.
What Is Coaching For Positive Change?
Coaching for positive change is not about fixing you. It’s not therapy, and it’s not motivational hype.
It’s a structured, supportive process that helps you:
Identify what genuinely needs to change (not what you think should)
Understand what’s holding you in place
Build practical strategies to move forward
Create momentum without burning out
Feel back in control of your decisions and direction
A change coach works alongside you to turn vague frustration into clear, achievable action.
For many adults and professionals, the hardest part isn’t making changes – it’s knowing which changes will actually make a difference.
Why So Many Capable Adults Feel Stuck
Some people I have worked with worry that feeling stuck means they're lazy, unmotivated or lacking discipline.
In reality, most people who seek coaching for change are:
Highly capable.
Responsible.
Used to carrying pressure.
Skilled at pushing through.
The problem is not ability. It’s misalignment.
You might be:
Living according to expectations that no longer fit.
Running on habits that once worked but now drain you.
Saying yes too often and losing sight of yourself.
Carrying responsibilities without space to reset.
Without support, people often stay stuck because change feels risky, unclear or overwhelming.
That’s why a behaviour change coach doesn’t just focus on goals, they focus on how you think, respond and act under pressure.
“But I Don’t Know What Needs To Change…”
This is one of the most common things people say to me.
They know something is off, but they can’t put their finger on it. And that uncertainty keeps them frozen.
You don’t need perfect clarity before starting coaching. Clarity comes through the process.
A great coach can change a life because they help you:
Slow down enough to notice patterns.
Separate external pressure from internal values.
Identify what’s draining you versus what energises you.
Reconnect with confidence and self-trust.
Change doesn’t start with answers. It starts with awareness and permission to explore.
How Coaching For Change Actually Works
Unlike generic advice or self-help content, coaching is tailored to you.
In my one-to-one coaching for adults and training for professionals, we work through three core stages:
1. Clarity Before Action
We identify:
What’s not working (honestly, without judgement).
What you want more of.
What you want less of.
What’s within your control right now.
This alone often brings relief. Many people say, “I already feel lighter just saying this out loud.”
2. Understanding Behaviour And Mindset
As a behaviour change coach, I help you recognise:
Habits that keep you stuck.
Thought patterns that sabotage progress.
Where fear, guilt or perfectionism shows up.
Why willpower alone hasn’t worked.
Change becomes easier when you stop fighting yourself and start working with how your mind operates.
3. Practical, Sustainable Change
Together we create:
Clear next steps.
Boundaries that protect your energy.
Strategies you can apply immediately.
Confidence to maintain progress independently.
This isn’t about dependency. It’s about giving you tools you can use long after coaching ends.
Real Examples Of Positive Change Through Coaching
Here are a few anonymised examples from adults and professionals I have worked with:
The professional on the edge of burnout
They didn’t want to quit their job, but they couldn’t keep going as they were. Through coaching, they reset boundaries, restructured their workload, rebuilt confidence and stopped living in constant survival mode.
The adult who felt “behind” in life
They compared themselves constantly and felt stuck in indecision. Coaching helped them redefine success on their terms, rebuild self-esteem and take action without fear of getting it wrong.
The capable high-achiever who felt flat
Nothing was “wrong”, yet nothing felt fulfilling. Coaching for positive change helped them reconnect with purpose, motivation and direction, without blowing up their life.
This is why a great coach can change a life. Not through dramatic overhauls, but through meaningful, aligned change.
Why Behaviour Change Is The Missing Piece
Most people know what they want to change:
Less stress.
More confidence.
Better balance.
Greater fulfilment.
But knowing isn’t doing.
A behaviour change coach focuses on:
How change actually sticks.
Why motivation fluctuates.
How to build consistency without pressure.
How to respond when old habits resurface.
This is especially important for professionals who are used to performing well for others but neglect their own needs.
Sustainable change happens when behaviour, mindset and environment work together.
Group Coaching: Change Without Doing It Alone
For some people, online coaching groups for adults are the perfect starting point.
Sessions like:
offer:
Structure to help you avoid feeling overwhelmed.
Shared insight without comparison.
Practical tools you can use immediately.
A sense of momentum and direction.
Group coaching helps you realise: “It’s not just me.”
It builds confidence, clarity and motivation, often becoming the bridge into deeper one-to-one coaching.
You can explore these sessions via the Online Group Coaching section of the site, and many clients use them to gain traction before committing to individual work.
One-To-One Coaching: Personal, Focused, Transformational
If you want tailored support, one-to-one coaching for adults or professionals allows us to go deeper, faster.
This is ideal if you:
Feel stuck but can’t articulate why.
Are navigating change at work or home.
Want clarity without judgement.
Need accountability that feels supportive, not pressurising.
This is coaching for change that adapts to you, not the other way around.
You can learn more on the Coaching For Adults page and see how sessions are structured.
What Changes After Coaching For Positive Change?
Clients often tell me the biggest shift isn’t external but actually internal.
They feel:
Clearer.
More confident in decisions.
Less reactive.
More grounded.
Motivated without pressure.
Externally, they often experience:
Better boundaries.
Improved work-life balance.
Stronger communication.
Renewed energy and focus.
A sense of direction again.
Positive change doesn’t mean life becomes perfect. It means you feel capable of handling it.
Why Now Is The Right Time To Start
Many people wait until things get “bad enough”.
But coaching for positive change is most effective before burnout, resentment or regret set in.
If you’re already thinking:
“Something needs to change”.
“I don’t want to feel like this in six months”.
“I need space to think clearly”.
That’s your cue. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to be willing to start.
Coaching For Positive Change Starts With One Decision
Whether you choose:
The outcome is the same: clarity, confidence and momentum.
A great coach can change a life - not by telling you what to do, but by helping you reconnect with who you are and what you need.
Ready To Create Meaningful Change?
If you know something needs to change but you’re not sure what or how, coaching can help you move forward with confidence rather than guesswork.
👉 Book a one-to-one coaching session today and take the first step towards positive, sustainable change.
👉 Or explore the online group coaching sessions to build clarity, motivation and direction in a supportive setting.
You don’t need to stay stuck. You just need the right support to move forward.
